Seriously...STOP HAVING BABIES! Don't get me wrong. I love babies. I want to be a freaking midwife for goodness sake...but when you get pregnant and you are emotionally or financially unstable, you should NOT BE HAVING CHILDREN! You should not expect that state or your parents to pay for the mistake you made by not using birth control or having protection. You are responsible for bringing another human being into this life and that is YOUR responsibility. YOU made the decisions to lead you down this road.
For instance: a girl had already had 2 abortions. She gets pregnant AGAIN. But she has no idea if it belongs to this guy or that guy. Now she wants to keep it because she's already had two abortions. Do YOU think this woman should be a mother? If she can't keep track the father, nevermind the birth control, do you think she should be responsible for another human life? Let me tell you, if you are pro-life and don't believe in abortion...you must understand that some women are going to screw up this kid's life anyway. Especially if she is NOT READY!!!!!!
I am sorry to complain about this so much but I just don't get it. It's not about age (despite the fact that SOOOO many of my classmates have already had children). It's about where you are in life. What are YOUR goals? Have you completed your own life? Because as soon as you become pregnant, YOUR life is over. THEIR life is beginning and your priorities must change. Not many people realize this and when their child is crying and needy, you get frustrated and upset. Being a mother (or father) is a COMPLETELY self-less task.
I went through the same sex education as you and I remember these ideals. This is for YOUR well-being as well as your baby's. Next time you have sex, take 1 millisecond at least to think about these things.
And on another note: STOP SMOKING CIGARETTES! This is the nastiest, filthiest habit in the whole world. It does NOTHING GOOD for you and WILL (and I mean it WILL) kill you! If you know someone who smoked for 30 years and died of something not smoking related, that's only because it got to it before smoking did. Don't be a disappointment to yourself when you're older. Don't be a disappointment to your kids.
WHY DON'T MORE PEOPLE KNOW THIS STUFF?!!!!!
AMEN SISTER!!!! Coming from a mother (and a darn good one if I do say so myself), having children, especially an infant, is an incredibly selfless task. Especially if you start out young, thin, and beautiful. Post-partum you are fat, leaky, sleep-deprived, and sometimes depressed. Then you have to give this baby everything you have physically and emotionally. And let's not even go into labor, that's ownright gory. I won't candy coat it, the only thing that is 'beautiful' about having a baby is in fact the baby. And sometimes (if they scream long enough, they aren't all that beautiful). I love my children but I have to admit that my life was changed drastically the moment I brought my first child into this world (whom I had in my mid-twenties and did not plan). Honey, I say now and will always say that you are going to be an amazing nurse, and if you decide to have children, an amazing mother as well. And when you get your midwifery license, I just might have another baby. WHo knows, we might go nuts and actually plan the next one :)
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